What if Talking to Parents Doesn't Work?

Even if you worry that a parent won't be willing or able to help, it's still worth a try. People are often surprised by how much their parents rally to their side when they ask for help, even if the parents have a lot going on themselves.

Occasionally, parents have too many troubles of their own or other issues going on. If you reach out to talk and it turns out your mom or dad can't help, just go to another adult (such as a teacher, counselor, coach, or relative). Don't give up until you find someone who can help you. It's that important.


What Else Can Parents Do?
Whether or not you're seeing a therapist, there are ways parents can help when you're dealing with depression. For example, they can:


spend relaxing, positive time with you
communicate with kindness and agree to ban hurtful criticism, arguments, threats, and putdowns
remind you that they love and believe in you
show affection
comment on your positive actions and traits
correct you (kindly, but seriously) when you go wrong
help with homework or projects if you're having trouble or get you a tutor
see the good in you and keep expecting good things from you
hold you accountable (kindly, but seriously) for your responsibilities at home and at school
talk through problems with you
make sure you get proper exercise, nutrition, and sleep (it's not nagging — it's love!)
You might need to ask your mom or dad to do these things for you. You can show them this list or come up with your own ideas. You know best what would feel most helpful to you.


Talk with your mom or dad about things you'll both do to help relieve your depression. Make a list of what you plan to do. Be sure that your plan includes how you'll get exercise, sleep and rest, healthy food, time outdoors during the day, positive time with loved ones, and relaxing enjoyable activities. They're all essential to fighting depression.


Look at your list every day to help you remember to do what's on your plan — and to remind yourself that you can get through this. Beyond depression, there's a brighter future ahead.